Sunday, February 06, 2011

PCOS and Faith

Longggggg overdue entry! Wrote this when I was in UK and only got the chance to upload it now. 

When I first found out about my PCOS approximately 5 years ago, I was surprised and devastated. I blogged about it on Multiply and a few people gave me advise on IVF and adoption, you can read it here and here if you're interested. IVF and adoption were my very last resort. I never thought of going down that road since it could be risky and VERY costly. Anyway, the best advise I got was from my Dad (yes, he used to read my blog but I'm not sure if he reads this blog though hehe). Here's what my Dad commented on the entry:

" Iva,

Alhamdulillah. But do not worry yourself too much about it.

When Mummy and I went for a blood test after Mummy conceived the 1st time (Abang Ezrin). We were told by the doctor that our blood were incompatible and medically speaking we cannot get any children. In fact, he said in certain countries we would not be allowed to get a Marriage License.

When we went to see the same doctor when Mummy conceived you (number 6), he told us that Dr M's desire for the country to have a population of 70 million is meant for the whole country to respond to and not us alone. So when Mummy conceived Kamarudin (number 7) we went elsewhere.
In short, what I am trying to say is, Insha Allah, He will take care of us and provide for us. No matter what others may say.

All we have to do is to doa from Him. Of course, that is, after having performed what He expects us to perform and abstaining from what he expects us to abstain.

Anyway, I am sure he asked you to de-stress (relax) yourself and not distress (worry) yourself.

Wassalam. Daddy"

That comment definitely lifted my mood and renewed my faith. Yes I believe that 'rezeki' comes from Allah. Heck, I think WE ALL believe that! But when certain news hit us, we just tend to forget and need reminder from people (and by people we tend to choose the people who are reminding us). For example, if my Dad didn't send that message, it will take me a while to believe there's still hope. We need people with experience and really close to us to actually point this out to us. Alhamdulillah, I've still got my parents to constantly remind me this.

After I 'revealed' my PCOS situation on Facebook, a few of my friends messaged me and telling me they've got it too. Some also have other sort of hormonal problems or infertility. To be honest, both Iskandar and I are not the most healthy and fertilised couple. Like I said, I have PCOS and as for Iskandar, he also had to go for some sort of surgery before we got married. Basically, the doctor told him that if he were to come later, he might suffer from infertility. Alhamdulillah Shukur, he sort of noticed the 'error' beforehand. But in any way, Allah has written every single thing for us. If it wasn't for HIM, we might not have this baby or even Khairaldin.

To those who wrote to me asking me for tips and advices, all I can say is, believe in ALLAH. Every bad and good things come from HIM and every single one of it has a beneficial reminder to us. He's not doing all this to burden us, but he knows if it was to be otherwise, we might be burden even more. So, if you don't have a child yet, it could be because HE knows you are not ready for it yet. So, he wants you to be prepared to be a mother, father, wife, daughter, daughter in law etc etc all at once. And trust me, it's no easy job but Alhamdulillah we managed. :) Like my Daddy said, All we have to do is to doa from Him. Of course, that is, after having performed what He expects us to perform and abstaining from what he expects us to abstain. So, doesn't mean worshipping HIM 5 times a day and du'a is enough, there is so much more to pleasing HIM. It will all be worth it in the end of the day. :)